I’ve been a long-time follower of Alison Armstrong and love her programs about Understanding Men, Celebrating Women. When I first started dating Bernard, we’d get into these arguments about the way we’d talk to each other. I kept telling him “You just don’t get it, do you?” and of course, he’d respond with “No, it’s you who doesn’t get it!”.
It seems that we were both right. We didn’t get each other. When I stumbled upon Alison’s work, it was a light bulb moment for me in realizing that my husband wasn’t my hairy girlfriend and I needed to treat him as a man. When I decided to change my way of interacting with Bernard, he changed with me. Our relationship with each other became more of a partnership. We learned how to be on the same page by first understanding our partnership as husband and wife which in turned affected how we raised our kids together.
Here is a video of Alison explaining men and women in relationship. I’d love to hear what your responses are to what she has to say.
NOTE: I know we are not cavemen and women, but hey, sometimes I think we revert back to those behaviors whether we like it or not.
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